Whether it’s your boyfriend or your guy friends, SGG is here to keep you from being a scorned sad girl whose dude doesn’t wear the sweater you got for him ever. And keep in mind – if you bake some snickerdoodles for your boyfriend’s friends, they will love you just as much as he does!
1. Spirit of the Month Club, $125 – 150 at Heights Chateau
2. Wingtip Mach 3 Silvertip Badger Shaving Set, $275
*I got my dude a membership to Wingtip’s lavish club for our anniversary.
3. Warby Parker Winston Sunglasses, $95 – $150
4. Makr iPhone 5 Card Sleeve in Oxblood, $120
6. Park Life USB Bottle Opener, $25
7. Cotton Cashmere Beanie, $68 at Onassis Clothing
8. Life Stationary Noble Note A4 Notebook, $40 at Union Made Goods
9. Gant Rugger Wrist Watch $125
10. Muholland ‘Captive Top Flask, $80
11. Limited edition Vinegar Mirror by John Dwyer, $100 at Vacation
SGG gives you all the tips to make the best of spending a holiday based around “togetherness” when you’re jason derulo riding solo. For those of you spending Thanksgiving with family or friends – scope the
Sad Girls’ Guide to Surviving Thanksgiving over on Myspace here!
You literally have no obligations today, since it IS in fact a holiday that the rest of the country is celebrating. You don’t need to go into the office, you don’t need to respond to any emails. It’s like a free pass to do whatever you want. This morning I woke up at 9am and then was like wait a minute lol what even do I have to do today – nothing. And went to sleep for another two hours. BEAUTY REST YA’LL, we have a big day of non-thanksgiving today!
EMBRACE YOUR SOLO-DOM
If you’re going to do Thanksgiving alone, then you better embrace it. Don’t take any pity “you can have Thanksgiving at my house” or last minute invites to Friendsgivings that you weren’t already invited to. No matter how well intentioned those invites are – girl you are riding solo this year. Let go of your pro-thanksgiving holly hobby attitude towards one of your favorite holidays and embrace that with a hashtag and some semi self deprecating tweets and go all in.
THE THREE W’S: WINE, WHISKEY, WOW
Like I said before, you literally have no obligations today and when you have no obligations, you can totally start drinking whenever you want. Everything I drink is either wine or whiskey (or tea, but that isn’t applicable here because of all that beauty sleep tbh) so just down that whenever you feel like wow I’m having thanksgiving alone. IT’S FINE. Then hit up twitter and see all the people complaining about they’re whack family and take a selfie of you with one of your beverages and reply like “WOW GLAD I’M NOT IN YOURRRR FAM!”
MEMORIZE YOUR CREDIT CARD NUMBER
I personally have every card number already memorized – complete with expiration and that little three number thing on the back, because I have a problem with online shopping. Thanksgiving is an awesome excuse to get on my level because tons of stores just throw an early Black Friday sale in there because they know most people will be downing themselves with poultry to take advantage of 70% off. NOT YOU THOUGH! YOU GOT THIS. You have all the time in the world to hit the internet sales. This is also good practice for when Monday comes around too. Woo! Buying things to fill a void!!!
SNACKS & PIE
Thanksgiving is a time to abandon all calorie counting for a day and go hard in the carbs. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you have to give that up. I don’t really suggest making yourself an entire turkey because I’m pretty sure they are ridic expensive and not even a champion binger could eat that much meat, but here are some options for the alone thanksgivingite:
CALL YOUR MOM
Preferably before you hit your second bottle of wine. It’s still a holiday, so I mean cmon.
SGG had Rachel and Jessica Davies give you a guide to being sisters, because they literally are SGG’s fav familial duo. See what it takes to make the most of that sisterly bond below~~~~
SUPPORT EACH OTHER
This one is obvious (and key to any successful relationship) but it’s super important to always be supportive of your sister. Knowing she’s there for you, and vice versa, will be comforting to the both of you. Sibling rivalry might be difficult to completely avoid but life will be way more fun if you accept that though you share similarities both you and your sister are individuals who will excel in different areas. Just like I would ask Rachel for help with anything swaggy, I would hope to be her first choice if she ever needed some Lana Del Rey info.
DO THINGS TOGETHER
Concerts, shopping trips, reading sessions, movie marathons, cooking classes! There are so many ways to spend time with your sister but life can get really busy and it’s easy to forget to make spending time together a priority. Rachel and I are very lucky because we still live in the same house and see each other regularly but for some sisters it could be weeks or months between visits. Especially in these scenarios it’s good to find a shared interest and use that to organize outings to keep your bond strong. In doing this you’ll be able to spend some quality time with your sister AND marathon the new season of Veep in two days.
BE FRATERNAL, NOT IDENTICAL
In a sistership, and all friendships, it is easy to be so focused on making sure the person likes you that you forget to give your genuine opinion. It’s ESPECIALLY important in a sistership to give your true opinion on a band, tv show, author, etc. because it’s pretty difficult to keep the act up for, like, your entire life.
As you might not have time to spend with your sister between all the school, homework, and your job it’s nice to just do small things for each other. Little acknowledgements like a “how are you” text when you haven’t talked in a while, talking on the phone while walking to work, or just tweeting your sister can be nice. It may be a little gesture but it’s nice just to know that they haven’t forgotten you.
DON’T ACT SUPERIOR
Since your older sister will always be the person who sets the standard for your future, and the older sister has the pressure of setting these expectations, it’s easy for age disparity to cause problems. It is important for me to see Jessica not just as “21-Year-Old-Jessica” but to view her as an equal. Age disparity can also cause the younger sibling to feel unwanted by the older sister, which can sometimes be true but if you can disregard the age barrier you can have a friendship just as great as those of equal age.
ENCOURAGE LEARNING & NEW EXPERIENCES
It is so important for you all to understand how essential this tip is; I write this with the utmost respect for sisterhood, an institution that is pathetically underrepresented in Hollywood. Earlier this year Rachel implied that at twenty-one I was too old to learn the violin and it affects me to this day. Trying new things is an important part of life and should always be encouraged. Whether looking over post-secondary options for Rachel or considering a semester abroad, it’s always helpful to discuss your options with someone you trust. In the words of the Haim sisters “don’t stop, no, I’ll never give up, and I’ll never look back, just hold your head up, and if it gets rough, it’s time to get rough.”
GIVE ADVICE BUT DON’T PREACH
Whenever your sister asks for advice you should always be as honest as you can. She is looking to you for guidance either because you have before been in a similar situation or because she needs an outside opinion. Make sure when you give your advice it is with an understanding that her situation is different from yours was in the past and that ultimately she has to make her own decision. Your sister didn’t come to you for a lecture so keep your comments grounded in the situation. Have you ever seen the movie “In Her Shoes”? If not, do, not only is it a narrative focused on sistership but it also proves this point perfectly. As much as may you want to shelter your sister from hardship it won’t help her in the long run if you don’t give her the space to find her own strength. (P.S. Jessica loves this movie, Rachel doesn’t)
DON’T FORCE IT
Relationships with siblings can be very complicated at times, and it’s important to not force the relationship. Your sister could be going through something and she might just need some space. Or the two of you could just not be meant to be best friends. There’s nothing wrong with this, it’s completely okay. Not that the bond between sister’s isn’t always special, but at times your differences can just be too great. It’s important to respect this, and allow space. Your perspectives can conflict and you should be OK with this just as you are in any other relationship. Your sister is special because she’s yours which means the two of you define your relationship, whatever the two of you are comfortable with is the way it should be.
Rachel is a Canadian high schooler who loves taquitos, tweeting (
@rachelcomplains), and comics.
Jessica studies english and the USA at the University of Toronto while twitter stalking Josh Charles from