Sad Girls Guide
One of the predominant problems that youngsters face these days is relationship breakups. Though in the long-run people are able to understand the fact that it was simply a small hurdle in a long race, it is usually hard to take it when it comes. That is why we, a team of psychologists, decided to form a platform that can redeem girls from this plight. I am glad that we are doing good and that our team is really cooperative.
“Don’t be so quick to give your heart away because someone will take it and throw it away.”
A failed relationship is tough to recover from and the pain is incomparable to any other wound. But you need to recover from all wounds and here are 9 tips to do so.
Let it go
Understand that what is done, is done. There is no use fretting over the past and contemplating what went wrong and what you could have done differently. It is a difficult thing to let go but it runs like poison in your veins till you finally do it.
Get into some outdoor activities
Seclusion is what the best of us crave in times like this. We do need some time along but that is only to a certain threshold. We should be aware of that cut-off time and not stay indoors beyond a certain time. Go out and bask in the sun, meet your friends and have fun.
“What if” is the worst thing to think
Looking back if not necessarily the worst thing but it shouldn’t be done to imagine what could have changed if you took a different decision. What has passed, has passed and there is no use dwelling on it.
New memories cover up the older ones
Think of this time as being on a cleanse and taking all the harmful substances out of your body. To get rid of all those old memories, you have to go out there, let your down and make millions of more fresh memories which overshadow previous ones.
Once you’re single, everything should be taken as a new opportunity for you. Try to focus on the things which you want to achieve and don’t have second thoughts about spending your money or time to do so.
Don’t stay in touch with your ex
Staying in contact with your ex might be a tempting idea but that doesn’t make it a good one. Avoid doing so because this way you can never forget them and learn to put your needs before anything else.
Changes in way of life
We all have ideas of how we want to live but there are things which come along the way and cut off our speed. Use this time after a heartbreak to get back on the track, put your foot down and make the changes you want to see in you.
See the positive side of yourself
This could be time for introspection and make really good use of it. Take a notepad and pen and list down all your good qualities. You might just go ahead and write down 100 of those and do not stop till you reach that number!
Fall in love again
For many of us, relationships haven’t worked out and it happens. This should not be the reason for you to retire from loving anyone ever again. Forever is a long time and the heart doesn’t have to shut its doors forever.
For two people in love and in a relationship, a major test would be how they fare when they are miles apart from each other. You might have had a coffee and held hands yesterday, but all of a sudden the day of parting is upon you, and from here on begins the challenge. Both of you might be in different time zones, living different lifestyles, breathing the different air and do not get to touch each other. This is going to stay the same way for long stretches of time and test your relationship on different occasions.
A lot of couples in their tender age wish to make it big in life as independent individuals but also understand that letting their loved one go is not the right thing. They wish to start a new life together but not at the experience of the career they have worked hard for or wish to get into. All those times they spend together in school, college, first job and memories made during those times, come rushing like the floodgates have been opened. The dynamics of commitment to their craft needs to be balanced with the affection they have for their paramour. Our generation is comprised of such people who think in modern terms and are ambitious. A few years of distance may not seem like the worst thing when they choose to live separately as their bond is much stronger than the distance which would be separating them.
There are many problems and challenges that come at the very next moment and although couples in such situations go ahead and try to make themselves feel good by thinking that being distant for some time will definitely make their bond stronger. This may very well be true but depends on whether both the partners are equally into the waters and wish to work hard to preserve this relationship. Another saying which gets quoted in such situations, “Out of sight, out of mind”, is a very real thing to say but couples try to work against it.
For couples who wish to make it, a fair sense of understanding and belief in the relationship as well as their significant other is a necessity and there is no alternative to that. There is a fair chance that feelings get misrepresented and emotions not clearly conveyed over means of communication that you use when in a long distance relationship. The struggle is real and both partners should always have a leeway for that sort of thing and a basic understanding between both always helps. There are times when it is easy to just give up and not make that phone call, type that e-mail but the couples which take the effort to do so are the ones who survive. Another important part is to keep the people around aware that you are in a relationship with this other person miles away. Many problems are avoided this way.